Friends warm hearts, evoke smiles, and build up souls. I’ve recently enjoyed some particularly warm words and sweet times with friends. It feels like an emotional sun bath after a spell of rainy weather. Though there may be many in the bigger tent of acquaintance type friendships, I am referring to sweet and personal friendship; i.e. the kind that endears and fills the “love tank”. At the inception of friendship is some kind of commonality, random though it may be, and the time it takes to discover it.
Then when two or more hearts make this discovery, words are spoken that settle into a heart, find their place, and no matter what fractures may come, the healthy heart will hold onto the good, and ascribe the most positive motives possible to friendship blunders.
When the blunders occur, and they will in all of us called human, there may be a time to question or confront. As with any other conversation between friends, it is personal, and a preference of private, rather then public should be assumed.
Humility, smiles, hugs, (and maybe even chocolate and coffee) are great accompaniments to any such planned conversation, or a good idea for a follow up, which is an important cusp to transition from possible tension to sweet rejuvenation.
This gregarious and humble camaraderie deepens the roots of a friendship, and harmony and amicability are all but pulsing in each tete-a-tete. Both heartaches and victories are shared with lavish empathy. Here we feel freedom to breath, to speak, to be oneself just as we have in our friendship with our Lord, Jesus. (Acts 17:28) Here, pretext melts and love, empathy, and yes, definitely laughter reign and are freely reciprocated.
The old saying holds some truth, “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold.” And, “When we do the hard intimate work of friendship, we bring a little more of the divine into daily life.” Do you have friends with whom you feel safely tucked in love and forbearance? Can you laugh at yourselves as well as weather a rebuke? If so, treasure these friends as a divine gift. The hard work of friendship has a divine calling on it straight from the scriptures. Are you willing?