From “Never Unfriended” by Lisa Jo Baker
“Shalom” radically interactive – taking an interest in the physical and spiritual well being of others. Care about their safety, soundness of body, welfare, posterity, peace and contentment, friendship and good health. Shalom is a radical word that challenges us to wake up from our obsession with ourselves and instead start the deliberate choice of focusing on the people around us and desperately caring less about ourselves and more about their “health, prosperity, harmony and wholeness. It means perfect welfare, serenity, fulfillment, freedom from trouble, and liberation from anything which hinders contentment.” This is the secret to finding and keeping lasting friendships: become women who want to see the women around you flourish. “Blessed are the peacemakers” (Matt. 5:9) the “shalom” makers. “It is a word bursting with energy. It mandates action and initiative. Those who are invested, interested, and diligently working for the well-being of the people around them. “For they will be called sons of God.” (Matt. 5:9)
I want to be the kind of woman who makes other women feel welcome. Where they feel seen, valued, and safe. That means that whether or not we have close friends is entirely in our own hands.
It’s not about whether I’m ever unfriended; but rather about whether I will become the kind of woman who never unfriends.